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Life

 Today I listened to a lot of folks complaining about the township closing school due to snow. However we didn’t get the accumulation that was predicted and kids stayed home from school for no reason. One person said what a waste of a snow day. But why look at it as a wasted day and not more as a day to spend with your kids. I do understand that some of us had to work. But life is unpredictable and having kids means more unpredictability. We could always look at the negatives. But I find it better to look for the positives. For instance I met this person I know at the food store and she said “hi do you remember me” and I responded yeah. Where were you? She replied “ I was off for a while due to being diagnosed with colon cancer. But everything went well and I’m doing great and glad to be back at work”. When she said that it hit me like a ton of bricks because my husband died from cancer. But just talking to her and her positivity made my day. Listen life could throw us a lot worse ...
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Food for though

12/30/23 As we are coming to the end of the year I felt like sharing.Always a drive to the beach makes me so very happy. Great music playing and walking in the cold breeze by the water. Pure joy. They say the happiest place is Disney I say it’s the beach💜 Live life to the fullest  Speak true Be kind Help when you can Do not take anything for granted  Life is not guaranteed  Life may throw you some curve balls. But you are strong enough to hit it right out of the park. And if you can lean on your friends and keep hitting singles. You will get there. Love you all Your friend #makeeverymomentcount💜
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Missing someone so bad

 I’m sitting by the beach. Feet in the sand looking out at the waves. Thinking how much grief is like the waves. I miss the better part of me. It’s been over 8 years and why does it still hurt so bad? We were a team. We did everything together. Whether it was working around the house, working on the cars or just having fun with the kids. Now everything is changing. And change is so difficult.  Sitting by the ocean and just listening to the water is definitely refreshing. It brings such a calm to your soul. I find it very healthy writing my feelings here. As I’m writing I could feel myself feeling so much better and lighter. Ok Bruce Springsteen and Janice Joplin on the radio helps as well💜 I also walked 2.5 miles down the shoreline. But now I have to walk back. What was I thinking.  Life. It throws you a lot of curve balls. Some you could hit right out of the park and some just singles. Some you just struggle with. But we are strong and will get through it.  Remembe...
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The Price You Pay For Love

 Hi folks, The past couple of days have been lonely. I am missing Mike a lot. It could just be because of these gloomy days. But to be loved by someone so wonderful has its pros and cons. I have all these great memories of him and I miss him so badly. I miss our amazing road trips that we took every year with the kids. I think my kids growing up an having there own life isn’t easy as well. It is what you want for them but it is so hard. I miss doing the lawn with my partner. We had a lot of good times and we also had some not so good times as well. We were a couple. Lol. But life goes on one moment at a time. They say grief is like the waves and I’m riding those waves the best way I can. I can’t wait for it to be nice out. Sunshiny days where I could go to the beach as often as I can. I do enjoy being at the beach. This blog is a safe space for me. Where I could write my thoughts with no judgements. To be clear I am fine. This is just how I feel right now. Like I said sometimes you...
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Coping

 Today is a bit heavy. But it’s all good. It’s ok to feel a bit down. It’s ok to go into the valley. The key is not to live there. Let’s face it. We are human and of course sometimes the feelings are just overwhelming. We just need to finds ways to deal with things. And please bear with me. I just simply write what’s flowing through my head at the time. Sometimes it feels like brain is on steroids. Lol. But today I’m feeling a bit heavy because the sun is shining with blue skies and I’m thinking of Mike and we will just be like let’s go for a drive. So I took a drive to Sandy Hook. Music blasting. Singing to the top of my voice. Enjoying the scenery. Sometimes this is all you need. You would think it’s been over 8 years and maybe I wouldn’t still miss him so. But remember grief has no timeline. Take the time for yourself. Go with friends or be ok being with just being with  you. It’s all good. Remember I started this blog so we could share whatever is going on with us at the t...
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INTRODUCTION

 Hi, I am a 54 year old single mom. I am starting this blog as a safe space where anyone can share anything. Good stuff or just if you are having a bad day. This is going to be a place with no judgement. A place just for caring and support.
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